The Freedom To Recover & 12 Steps to Dead
I wrote and published “The Freedom to Recover” for one simple reason, the AA/12 Step methodology is an utter FAIL.
Besides the dismal success rate that even corporate AA won’t argue isn’t much more than 5%, the basic premise that you will forever be recovering and in need of their “program” for life, suggests to me, that its failure rate is really more like 100%. Isn’t the goal, or shouldn’t it be anyway, for people to become RECOVERED and not be recovering “One day at a time” for ETERNITY?
Then there are the absolutely counter intuitive “suggestions” contained within the Steps themselves that are absolutely disempowering and downright damaging. People who are trying to overcome dependency issues need to strengthen their resolve, confidence and decision making abilities.
What does AA tell them to do in these Steps?
1-That they are powerless over an inanimate object that is “cunning, baffling and powerful”. You can’t ascribe personality traits to a THING. Well, I guess you can but that’s rather insane and ridiculous. Telling people that they are powerless and diseased for life is morally reprehensible, damaging and a LIE.
2-That they need to surrender both their will and their life to a random higher power of their own choosing in order to effect positive changes in their life. That would be a NO! What’s required is to learn how to strengthen one’s will and reclaim one’s life by improving coping skills and their view of the world and their place in it.
3-Then in Steps 6 & 7 AA’s religious faith healing answer truly rears its ineffective head; 6) “Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character” & 7(Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). While this petitioning of the Lord with prayer (Faith Healing) might provide some sort of placebo effect for those who truly “believe”, it can also lead to disastrous results. Think of the parents of sick children for whom a medical solution is available but who refuse such treatment saying that “We’ve prayed and it’s now in God’s hands.” Those children, sadly, end up dead.
With cognitive methods available and science searching for answers every day, to rely on this dated 1930’s “fellowship” as a recourse for dependency issues is ABSURD. A new paradigm is LONG overdue!
So I wrote Freedom to debunk AA’s crappy program and “suggestions” and to offer a few ideas on ways to approach life that will hopefully help some people get back in the driver’s seat of their life. No, I didn’t offer a “program” or tell people that they had to do X, Y or Z or else. Just a few ideas on decision making and thinking skills and that kind of thing.
I was inspired to write “Twelve Steps to Dead” because while I think I did a pretty good job in deciphering AA’s history and lack of usefulness in Freedom, I didn’t really delve too much into some of the absolutely horrific practices that actually take place in those rooms.
Yes, it’s a novel, but if you read the reviews on Amazon that it has garnered so far, you’ll see that these things actually happen in this borderline whackadoodle cult and it leaves people depressed, stupefied and even more dependent and dysfunctional than they were before they walked down those dreaded basement steps. In some cases, the net effect is even much worse than that. So here’s a teaser to meet a few of the characters, I hope you take the time to meet them and learn “their stories”. Sorry, I couldn’t help myself……
For Stevie McGrath, it was all about the music. At least that’s what he kept telling himself for the last 28 years as he drank and drugged away the pain and memories of that trauma filled night. When the band told him to clean up his act or get out, he turned to the rooms of AA to help him get through. He thought he was going to be fine until he was forced to revisit those dark secrets. They should have left it alone.
Christopher Adams had it all, the seven figure Wall Street career, the beautiful wife, two perfect kids and the tail wagging dog. The question was, why was he drinking it all away? When Bryce Mathers called him into the executive offices of Squire Investments that Friday morning, the gig was up. Given the choice of immediately entering The Serenity Surrender Center’s 30 day rehab program or of joining the ranks of the unemployed, Chris chose the former. He came to the conclusion that it all came down to the choices we make and he questioned the one he made many years ago to bale on the band just as they were about to break out. He chose the American dream instead and now he found himself disillusioned with it all. The question was, what was he going to do about it and did he even have a choice?
Sharon Cooper was a fiercely independent woman. It was a survival response that was etched into her core ever since her parents were killed in an automobile accident when she was just a young teenager. As an aspiring actress/model, the challenge of getting jobs and the pressure to maintain her perfect good looks was starting to take its toll. She was acutely aware that her stress reduction method of drinking and taking pain meds certainly wasn’t helping that cause. At the urging of her good friend Stevie, she checked out a 12 Step meeting where she was told that there were caring, nonjudgmental folks just waiting to help support her. She had no idea what she was in for.
All three of these lifelong friends had reached a crossroads in their lives and had no way of knowing that a harsh and brutal turning point would culminate at the same intersection. It was a tumultuous encounter in which only two would come out alive.
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