overcoming dependencies for one simple reason. His intent was to help people
achieve in far less time, what it took him the better part of his LIFE to
finally attain; that being the freedom from dependency and the despair and pain
that accompany it.
So he built a little website and not having been involved in
social networking to any extent other than to see the occasional pictures that
his children posted from over 300 miles away, announced the occasion to his
handful of Facebook friends.
Without any backing of a publishing company, he set off to try
and get the word out. He joined multiple on-line recovery websites and joined in
on the conversations. Slowly the book found its way into some people’s hands.
Due to the nature of the subject matter, not too many folks were inclined to
post reviews of the book on Amazon because, understandably, it was not a subject
or a struggle that they necessarily wanted to publicly share. But some were
gracious enough to share their impressions for which I am very grateful.
The on-line conversations and networking continued and the author
was able to meet and engage in meaningful conversations with other prominent
voices in the recovery field who share the belief that a new paradigm in
recovery is long overdue. One in which methods of self-empowerment,
responsibility, decision making are encouraged as opposed to one that relies on
powerlessness, surrender and faith healing. The end game should be to become
recovered and put one’s dependency into the past where it belongs instead of
living a life recovering for eternity.
He stuck a chord and was asked to speak about his book and ideas
at SMART Recovery’s FUNdraiser this past fall. He did the same on Kenneth
Anderson’s (Director of the HAMS Network-Harm reduction, Abstinence, Moderation
Support) radio show.
1000’s of hours went into research, writing, editing, blogging,
networking and that effort continues.
The first e-mail that he received from someone who had struggled
for decades trying to win the fight but failing through no fault of their own
but that had found what they needed in his words, brought a joy like none other.
It was the first of many and it has made this endeavor worth every ounce of
blood, sweat and tears.
Yet, there is still so much more to get done. The old paradigm,
AA’s 12 Step religious program, still has a stranglehold on the field. There
will always be a place for those who are happy with their methods and a lifetime
commitment but it certainly should not be the standard of care when it’s
efficacy in combatting the issue has been proven to be no more effective than
doing nothing at all and in some cases causes emotional distress and worse.
I’d like to thank my editor, my heart and my future wife, Jill
Wendrow, for all of her help, support and patience in dealing with an author
with the patience of a hummingbird asked to sit still.
Along with this blog, a novel is in the works and that youtube
video of me playing my “recovery” song, Who’s laughing now, WILL be put out
In the end though,
The Freedom to Recover is for YOU dear reader. It is my hope that you garner at
least one thought or idea that improves your life in some tangible way. Life is
all about intent and the follow through put forth to bring it about. Towards
that end, I strive to do the next right thing. Like everything in life, it’s a
work in process.
Peace out and thank you for reading :->