Question :If addicts are not powerless then why the need for the enjoyable 'alcohol and
drug free life'? I don't have to abstain from substances that I am not powerless over. The
fact that you recommend abstinence is a direct contradiction to your free-will philosophy.
'Normal' people don't have to choose sobriety. They can enjoy drinking alcohol.
Answer: Not necessarily so; Here's why I choose to abstain...
1-I used alcohol to cope with stress and
social anxiety. I got over the social anxiety as I got older but it was alcohol
that I still depended on to deal with the everyday stresses of my life. Now that
I've learned methods of dealing with and approaching life and it's inherent
stress one could justifiably say, why don't you go back to mature, responsible
1-When I drank, I didn't drink for a little buzz or because I so enjoyed the taste. I
drank for the effect, the full effect.
So to moderate for me, to have to count drinks etc....would induce a bit of an
anxiety factor which was one of the reasons I drank in the first place, so why
2-My life in the last four years since I decided to not drink have
been the best four years of my life so I see no reason to put something back in
it that didn't work so well for me for a very long time.
"Normal people don't have to choose sobriety. They can enjoy drinking
That is very true. But after having been dependent on drugs and
alcohol for over 35 years, normal was kind of taken off the table. Who knows,
maybe some day I'll decide that drinking again is an OK idea that won't cause me
any anxiety or stress, maybe not. All I know is that for 35 years I chose to
avoid life and the decisions that go with it by hiding in the booze and drugs.
Now that I've overcome the need or desire to do that, booze has left an
understandable "bad taste" if you will in my mouth. I enjoy not being hungover,
not forgetting things, being in better physical condition, excelling at things
because my mind is sharper. There are dozens of very viable and good reasons not
to want to drink and that is my choice. Some people drink because it makes them
"happier", I'm happier without it for the above stated reasons.s
PS: If it feels good, you enjoy it and you aren't hurting anyone in the process and you aren't shirking your responsibilities......then enjoy.......