AA totally takes the meaning of denial and twists it to serve its purposes.
Before we take a look at their evil use of the word, let’s take a look at
how normal people apply it in the recovery conversation.
Most people when speaking of the term in regards to alcohol and drug
dependency are referring to the idea that until one becomes aware of the fact
that their alcohol/drug use is causing problems or until they realize that they
are using it to deal with life’s stresses, anxiety, PTSD, depression, etc…; that
they are in some sort of denial.
While this is undoubtedly true in my opinion, there comes a tipping point
where people are no longer under any delusion that they are using for purposes
beyond just having fun and that the consequences for doing so are becoming an
issue. In some cases, there are no underlying issues at all and the person just
overdoes it because that’s how they roll. Still, they find that it’s causing
problems and they eventually see it as well. In either case, denial is taken
off the table eventually and people are faced with making CHOICES. As I see it,
at this point they acknowledge the ramifications and do the following;
1-They make a decision to moderate and drink responsibly (achieved more
readily by those without any underlying issues for which they may have been
using in the first place)
2-They make the decision to stop.
3-They keep using because they just don’t know any other way of coping with their other
issues or conditions.
4-They keep using because they don’t care anymore.
5-They keep using because they believe they have the “disease” of addiction and
are therefore powerless to stop.
Ah, this last one is AA’s one and only view of denial and of course it’s
based on a lie. Even most supporters of the disease theory believe that people
can overcome their addictions/diseases. Personally I don’t believe in either
of the two components, powerlessness or the disease factor but both taken
together are what gives AA its power over its congregants.
So, when you hear people in the rooms of AA talking about how others are in
denial, they’re not talking about the idea that these people aren’t aware of the
fact that drinking has become a problem, what they are talking about is the
“fact” (in their minds anyway) that these people are under the delusion that
they don’t have an incurable disease! A disease for which only the wonders of
the 12 Step faith healing, one day at a time for eternity model, can give them a
daily reprieve. Their use of the word denial, is one of the sneakiest things
that AA does. It’s not denial in the sense of;
“Hey, I don’t have a problem, what are you talking about.”
Let’s face it, if you are desperate enough to walk into the halls of AA, I
think you damn well know you have a problem!
No it’s the “You are in denial
of your DISEASE” that they are talking about.
So for those in the halls of AA that are in denial about their disease,
GOOOOOOD, stay in denial because you’re right! The minute you lose hold of that
denial and believe otherwise, then they’ve broken you and the rest of the
brainwashing and indoctrination is but a foregone conclusion.
So stay in denial of AA’s lies of powerlessness and disease because if you
don’t, you’re looking at a lifetime of recovery in the sheepdom.