This post may not apply to everyone out there who has suffered
from addiction, at least not at the beginning of that downward spiral. Towards
the end though, probably everybody who has ever felt “the need” for that next
drink, pill, needle, etc… has indeed felt it very strongly. That to which I
refer is phenomenon of “chasing the dragon”. The term is used in several
contexts but at its heart is the fact that no matter how much of your drug of
choice that you just consumed, the soothing, peaceful and numbing effects of it
are very short lived. No sooner have you just put down that glass or ingested
that pill and in no time you want (need) more. What’s that all about? Well
obviously there is very much a physical component to it; your body actually
needs the drug or else you start to go through withdrawal. But if you look back
honestly, don’t we usually go for that next fix long before
I can only vouch for myself on that one but I’ve observed and
spoken too many who admit that is indeed the case. Why then? A lot of what
follows is going to seem contradictory but that’s sometimes how life is;
opposite of what it seems, ying/yang and all that.
A lot of people drink to reduce stress, anxiety, loneliness, etc…
The problem is that initially it actually works! People will say that when they
drink/drug, they are content in the moment and all of that stuff goes away. Does
it? Maybe for a minute, hour or a few; until the dragon starts wagging its tail.
Anxiety and stress are usually unease about the future, be that the immediate (5
minutes from now, later today, tomorrow, next week, the rest of your life, take
your pick)(Sometimes it’s about regrets and resentments about the
past)(Sometimes it’s about boredom in the present). In any case, the time
element is huge.
So when people say, “I just want to get buzzed and mellow and be
chill in the moment,….what they are really saying is “I want these anxiety
ridden, stress related, regret related, ….. thoughts….. to leave me the F alone.
And like I said, initially it works….until it doesn’t.
What’s the answer? Dealing with the
PAST…..Forgive it, learn from it, and it give it some form of closure. FUTURE….
Have a plan, goals, a vision (but don’t get obsessive about it; that just causes
more anxiety and stress. How then? PRESENT….. Live in the
present-BUT with intent not just in a “dude what’s the big deal, I’m so ZEN and
in the moment” Bullshit-Your surfer dude aura is fleeting and the dragon
I address all of these time elements in “The Freedom to Recover”.
There’s a lot more to it (Life) and I’ll talk about all of it in drips and
Have a fantastic week all. Don’t forget; YOU are the creator of
your reality. Seize it now! If not now,