Now this is not a horrible thing in small doses. Your decision making mind can’t
be on full speed all the time otherwise your ability to make sound decisions
deteriorates throughout the day and later in the evening you are more prone to
making snap decisions and very often bad ones. Your patience is also diminished
as a result and you are very likely to be more easily irritable.
That being said, we want to spend more time being present with intent
than merely occupying space. So again, there is a conflict of interest there and
our mind is all too painfully aware of this conflict which is why we have all of
those lovely competing messages in our head. You know the one’s that tell you
that you should get up, get going, do something like go to work, finish that
project, call your agent, etc…. These are thoughts that require intent (a plan,
a goal, a desired end result) and they require making decisions and carrying
them out (willpower). The more of this type of activity that you carry out, the
more quickly your reserves are used up.
The competing thoughts that battle against these responsible, goal
oriented ones, like (sleep in, zone out in front of the TV, etc..) are pushing
you in the opposite direction. Making sound and meaningful choices is taxing,
stressful and depleting. That of course does not mean that you shouldn’t be
doing them but our nature is often to take the easy way out (revert to the zone
out mode). So a certain amount of mental down or zone out time is required but
not at the expense of living an authentic life in the present with intent. Again
it’s a bit of a paradox and a balancing act.
In the Freedom to Recover I discuss what I call the “arbitrator” of
this whole process. This is the part of your mind that makes the final call as
to which way we are going to go and that sifts through all these competing
motivations. In order to lean towards the authentic mode with intent, as I
mentioned, a lot of willpower is required and we only have so much with which to
operate on a daily basis. So how do we empower the arbitrator with the ability
to conserve willpower or to at least use it more efficiently so that we don’t
burn up our daily supply? See chapter 15 “The art of thinking” for some useful
Have a great authentic day filled with good intent!