pretty much some up the answer to those queries and those two words are;
For over 35 years I self-medicated the internal pain and confusion that I had in coping with day to day existence. At varying times it seems like I dealt with a good chunk of the many underlying issues that I’ve heard many people identify as one of the causes of their dependencies. Some of those included social anxiety, stress, depression, untrue beliefs, poor coping skills, obsession with time (past, present and future),
poor listening skills, etc…. The list was long.
But to a large extent, I’ve managed to overcome all of those issues and though we may never totally master any of them, we should always strive to improve our understanding, knowledge of underlying
causes and to develop skills to mitigate the negative effects of these kinds of issues.
I share on my blog opinions on what works and what doesn’t. I don’t tell anyone what to do but
merely try to impart on those still battling some of the above mentioned issues, some new ways of looking at these things based on my experience in things that I figured out over a very, very long time. If I can help people get to where I find myself now, in a Hell of a lot less time, then I feel like it’s all worth it.
I probably would have overcome those issues and found peace in my life much earlier if I had not been sidetracked and coerced to immerse myself in the accepted paradigm of recovery, namely 12-Step
Society, the rehab industry, the media, family, the courts, therapists, and pretty much everywhere you turn, will tell you that AA is where the answers are to be found.
This is of course a lie and it’s a travesty that in the year 2014, messages of “powerlessness”, “surrender”, “confession” “lifetime recovery” and FAITH HEALING are still hailed as some kind of solution when it has never been shown to have any efficacy whatsoever in helping people overcome their dependency issues.
I don’t want to see people who are courageous enough to take on their dependencies be told that they are powerless over altering their life’s direction. I don’t want people to buy into the idea that they should revoke their willpower when what they need is the exact opposite, to assert their decision making abilities and to personally effect the changes that they need in order to evolve and create a meaningful and authentic
I just recently came up with an answer for when people ask me “What do you do?”
I simply answer, “I work in the recovery industry as speaker, writer and an activist for cognitive based self-empowering solutions”.
Sometimes I wonder how long I’ll keep doing it. It does get a bit overwhelming, frustrating and for the most part, it’s a thankless endeavor. But hey, no good deed goes unpunished right? So I also sometimes wonder, is it worth it? But then I get an email or a comment or a letter from someone who thanks me because some of my observations made them question the accepted paradigm of recovery, brought some neunderstanding and helped them reclaim their lives and then I think, it does matter.