Why is that you often hear and read about people, who after having endured and suffered through 12-Step madness for periods of time like say, 5, 10, 15 or more years, finally come to their senses and leave after discovering the truth, yet you NEVER hear about people with that much non-step recovery time suddenly
deciding that joining a 12-Step fellowship would be a good idea. Why is that?
Could it perhaps be that those who overcame their dependencies without the cult have actually RECOVERED and put that period of their lives into the history file while those in the cult relive it on a daily basis. In other words, people who recover in a normal and sane fashion, don't even think about
"recovery" anymore because they have long since recovered. What do you say steppers? What's the answer.
Any thoughts from the sane and rational thinkers out there?
Here are a few of the responses that this question invoked;
"Too Funny. Rolf, do you really expect a rational, logical, sane answer from a stepper?
Let me know how that works out for you."
"I like the point about how so many people have just moved on with their lives. They no longer even think of words like recovery. It is just a part of one's past like everything else. I just cannot imagine how anyone would endorse talking about there past over and over again for DECADES. Then they feel they need to tell people their anniversary date- even 20 years later. Get a Life!!!!!!"
"Well said Rolf Ankermann. That was a big part of my disengagement from NA. The disease concept made no sense to me. I have nearly six years between today & my last drug use so I am recovered. I used to be an addict."
"I went to AA for a couple of years. I've been sober for 10 1/2 years. I would say I'm "recovered". I go weeks at a time never thinking about alcohol. In fact, the thought of drinking just makes me sick! In my case, your thoughts are fitting for me, Rolf! The only problem is the one I've had all along. Losing many friends, and being discriminated against because I'm a non-drinker. I'd NEVER go back to AA, because it is, in my view, "cultish", and causes a dependency, when I want to be done with any dependency!"
"I tried AA for decades. Was in and out. Had a 6 year stretch at one point. I thought there was something wrong with me for not getting it. After coming to my senses, finding a really good CBT therapist, it is clear that AA was worse than doing nothing, that I felt more like drinking after a meeting than before. I am not going back, even if I were to drink again. Drinking is a part of my past. Today my life is full and drinking rarely, if ever, is more than a passing thought."
The next post will be a comparison of AA's ridiculous guilt provoking 4th step ( list of sinful acts and character defects) and the much more useful and rational approach of analyzing one's history to try and uncover any underlying issues that may have played a part and that need to be addressed and overcome.
Think Spring!!!!!.....As another snow storm comes winding into time :-(
Happy Sunday and Peace out,