Anger, he smiles,
towering in shiny metallic purple armour
Queen Jealousy, envy waits behind him
Her fiery green gown sneers at the grassy ground
Blue are the life-giving waters taken for granted,
They quietly understand
Once happy turquoise armies lay opposite ready,
But wonder why the fight is on
But they're all bold as love, yeah, they're all bold as love
Yeah, they're all bold as love
Just ask the axis
My red is so confident that he flashes trophies of war,
and ribbons of euphoria
Orange is young, full of daring,
But very unsteady for the first go round
My yellow in this case is not so mellow
In fact I'm trying to say it's frightened like me
And all these emotions of mine keep holding me from, eh,
Giving my life to a rainbow like you
But, I'm eh ,
yeah, I'm bold as love
Well I'm bold, bold as love (hear me talking, girl)
I'm bold as love
Just ask the axis (he knows everything)
“Bold As Love”, Jimi Hendrix
What are we talking about here? Emotions folks. You have to allow yourself to feel them. It’s best, however, not to make life altering decisions while you are in a highly emotional state. Let yourself feel the emotions, then later, after they settle, question what they meant, what to do about them and then get to it.
Anger is real. It’s neither necessarily good nor bad; depending on the situation it could be either or. It just is, it’s a fact of the human condition. To deny you the “feeling” of emotions is to deny yourself a very real
and necessary part of what it is to be human. Can you even do that? I think to a
certain extent that you can but that it’s not healthy.
Let me give you an example of why I think that is the case. My father, may he rest in peace, was what you could describe as the stereotype logical German. He never got really high but he also never got really low
either. He was logical and methodical to the extreme. I think I can count the amount of times that I saw him “pissed” off on one or two fingers. Unfortunately I can also say the same thing about the amount of times that I saw him laugh until it hurts. He was emotionally like a flat-line EKG as opposed to having what I consider to be the more healthy wave-like ones found in those who allow their emotions to be felt. Was he content and did he have a good life? I think that he thought that he really did and perhaps he did but I wish that he had worn it on his sleeve a bit more. He was hard to know but a great man.
So should people allow themselves to feel anger? Absolutely! Should you hold onto to it forever? Well, to be angry is obviously the opposite of being happy which I prefer infinitely more. That being said, there is JUSTIFIED anger that is simply hard to let go of and that perhaps to a certain extent, shouldn’t be completely let go of.
Take our mutual anger (On this site I would think anyway) towards AA; what it did to us, others and the lies that it perpetuates. Should we let that go? Maybe we should let the actual “emotional” charge of anger subside but we should not “FORGET” and use the residual disdain to move us towards action to right what we perceive to be a wrong. So anger can be good and healthy but you shouldn’t let it consume you to the point that you are a miserable pissed off human being. Those folks are NOT fun to be around. Just
take a look at the Old-Timers holding court in the church basements; not a pretty sight.
OK, another example. The other morning I was playing tennis and I absolutely simply stank out the joint. Got blasted 6-2, 6-0 to a really good player but one who I’ve beaten in the past. I got all pissy, threw my racket like a spoiled little brat and swore off the sport. I then went down to the beach to play my guitar to try and mellow out. Within 5 minutes I popped the D string on what was practically a brand new set of
strings; same one I popped the week before. So by the time I got home, I was still all angry and pissy and it showed. My fiancé was none too pleased with having to spend the rest of that day with me. By the end of the day, the emotions subsided and I looked at it with a bit more of a detached and rational view. I realized that maybe something was wrong with the guitar where the peg secures the string. I filed it down, put on new strings and it was good as new. Tennis-wise, I reflected back and realized that I wasn’t tossing the ball high
enough on my serve, following through on my returns, etc. I played the same guy two days later and won a squeaker.
So it was OK to feel the anger (sans the racket throwing) but it was important that I looked at it later and analyzed my response. If I held onto it without doing that, I might have decided that playing tennis and guitar wasn’t worth the bother; they pissed me off.
So feel the emotions people, but then
Peace, love, tranquility AND A BIT OF ANGER-haha