She said that she was, however, conflicted about leaving due to something I had written about in one of my blogs. I was stunned, appalled and confused as to how anything I might have to say would contribute to somebody actually wanting to stay there!!!!! So I asked her what in the world that might have been. So, she went on to mention how I wrote about the importance of getting out of one’s isolated addictive state by reconnecting with live human beings in the real world. She mentioned that one of the many suggestions I had for doing so involved giving of oneself towards their community by ways of volunteerism or “giving back” if you will. Now mind you, I’ve never insinuated that this is an absolute must for newly RECOVERED people, but it is just one of many ways in which you might try to rejoin the living. Some people just don’t have the time, the resources or the inclination to do that kind of thing and that’s OK. For me personally, it was very helpful in eating up some of those hours wasted in church basements. So still confused, I said “so where’s the conflict, I don’t get it”.
That’s when she brought up AA’s 12th step; “Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs”. Her sponsor told her that she would be selfish to “take what she needs and then leave without giving it back”.
I said “Whoa missy! Let’s back up for a minute. First of all, when you first walked into the doors of AA, were you ready to address your dependency issues and did you want to put the bottle down?” She said, “well yeah, that’s why I went!” So I said, “Did it ever occur to you that the reason you quit was because you were ready to quit and AA had nothing to do with it?” Furthermore, exactly what “spiritual awakening did you attain by
working these mind numbing power depleting steps of surrender? What exactly is the “message” and “principles” that you would so graciously bestow upon others? She had no answer but simply uttered something to the effect of “But shouldn’t I stop being so selfish and try to help others?”I told her that there were far more important and worthwhile endeavors for helping mankind other than languishing in their cult for the rest of her life.
AA’s 12th step is just one of their many clever ways of GUILTING you into never leaving!
I told her that there were plenty of “old timers” like her dipshit sponsor who will NEVER leave and who will happily “sponsor” any and all newcomers so she need not feel the need to do so.
AA is like a living, breathing organism and as such, its primary purpose is to reproduce and survive. One of a sponsor’s primary purposes is to “recruit” more sheeple for the cult and more importantly TO KEEP THEM THERE! Their role is much like that of a missionary.
So I said to her “Susie, just look at all the ways in which they try to guilt you into staying.”
1-12th step nonsense.
2-The threat of jails,institutions or death if you ever leave
3-Identifying yourself as an “alcoholic” every time you speak
4-Reliving your sinful past by listening incessantly to people’s stories
5-Telling youthat the steps are a never ending process, that you need to do and redo your
4thstep sin list and 5th step confession on a regular basis as outlined in step 10.
It’s a never ending process that you are NOT SUPPOSED to mature out of or graduate from. THERE IS NO EXIT STRATEGEY!!!!! You are to be a sheeple until the end of time!
So I told her, “Screw that Susie, what does your gut, your intuition tell you that you should do? She said my gut says get the Hell out.
So I said with a smile in my heart, always follow your intuition baby.
Her last meeting was last week J That’s my 12th step work----Help people GET AND STAY THE HELL OUT!!!!!! At
least then they have a chance to mature out and start a real life.